It's the news we all dread, but it's inevitable. When someone passes away, so begins the seven, or five, stages of grief for their loved ones. But what happens when someone close to you is affected by death? You'll likely feel like you need to do something, and a message of condolence is a good start. 

It's up to you whether you choose to send it via text, instant message, email, handwritten on a card, over the phone, or face-to-face with a big hug. Just know that there's no right or wrong way to express it.
 

There are many examples of appropriate condolence messages on the internet, but not all of us are formal, religious or comfortable when it comes to death. Many of us would rather tell our grieving friend that 'it's ok' and that the sun will shine again, without the old "So sorry for your loss" statement.
But how do we share our sympathy authentically; without sounding corny? Here are some supportive, informal and non-awkward examples and additions to the traditional sympathy message that we love and that you could try:

• Sending you strength and so much love as you remember [name].
• Sending you love and light while you navigate this difficult path.
• Wishing you peace and strength to help you cope during this time.
• I am devastated to hear the news about [name], and my/our hearts go out to you.
• I cannot imagine how you must feel, but please know I care about you.
• I/you have such happy memories of [name] and know how special they were to you, too.
• I know how special [name] was to you and know you have such wonderful memories to treasure forever.
• [Name] was such an incredible person, and we will miss them.
• I/we are heartbroken for your/their loss.
• I'm going to miss them too.
• Try to take comfort in the happy times and the memories you shared.
• I know how much you're hurting, and I'll do whatever I can to help.
• I am here for you, even if you want to have a cry, a drink or a walk. Please reach out.
• If there's anything I can do, please let me know.

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